Making Memories Matter: Helping Men Feel Comfortable in Maternity and Newborn Photos
Many men seem to have an aversion to being photographed, often shying away from the camera or refusing to participate in photoshoots. This reluctance can become particularly challenging when it comes to capturing special moments like maternity photos or newborn baby pictures. Understanding the reasons behind this hesitation can help in finding ways to make your man feel more comfortable and engaged in these important life events.
Why Do Some Men Avoid Photos?
Self-Consciousness – Many men feel uncomfortable about their appearance in photos. They may worry about how they look, whether their expressions seem forced, or if they appear awkward. No one likes ‘forced fun’.
Lack of Control – Some men dislike the idea of being posed or directed, feeling that they have little control over how they are represented in photos.
Disinterest – Unlike us women, who may see photos as sentimental keepsakes, some men may not attach the same emotional value to pictures and thus don’t prioritise them in the same way.
Past Bad Photos – If your man has had unflattering pictures taken in the past, he may be hesitant to go through the experience again.
Societal Norms – Some men grow up believing that caring too much about appearance or participating in photoshoots is vain or unmasculine.
Impatience – Photoshoots, especially staged ones, can take time, and some might see it as a tedious activity rather than an enjoyable experience.
Let’s take it easy and make it enjoyable.
Understanding these reasons is the first step in addressing them. Here are some practical ways I like to encourage Husbands, partner’s and new Dad’s to get in front of the camera:
Emphasize the Emotional Significance – My sessions always start with an informal chat, easing gently into it all with conversations that help him see that these moments are about more than just looking good. These pictures will serve as cherished memories for years to come, for both the parents and the child.
Keep It Casual and Natural – Instead of formal or heavily posed photos, there’s always a focus on candid shots, with relaxed settings where he feels more at ease. Not looking directly into the lens is always a winner too.
Let Him Have Some Control – Talking to your partner before the day to plan things together is important, allowing him to choose the location, outfit, so he feels involved in the process rather than just an unwilling participant.
Show Examples of Great Photos – Sometimes seeing examples of other fathers in maternity or newborn photos can inspire confidence and make him realise how meaningful the experience is.
Make It Fun – My mantra has always been that the experience is my priority and the photographs come as a lovely extra. The photoshoot should be an enjoyable experience by incorporating elements he feels comfortable with, such as music, humor, or a setting where he feels at ease. His hobby and interests can always be included into the session, giving him something to do rather than be left on the sidelines, fancy a surf?
Encourage Small Steps – If your partner is hesitant, we will start with a few informal pictures rather than a full photoshoot. Gradually, he may become more comfortable with the idea, the camera and me.
Remind Him of the Legacy He’s Creating – These photos aren’t just for today but for the future. One day, your child will cherish these pictures as a reminder of the love and joy of their earliest days. Including prompts which don’t included the kids finally allows for some intimacy with you, your relationship and connection is certainly worth celebrating.
Final Thoughts
While some men may naturally shy away from the camera, it’s possible to help them see the value in capturing special moments with their partner and child. By making the experience comfortable, fun, and meaningful, you can turn their hesitation into enthusiasm, ensuring that these beautiful milestones are preserved forever.